IS IT TRUE SOME ARE
"BORN THAT WAY"
by
Donarld D. Schroeder
Written 1984
Many of us may be in for a surprise - or a, shock!
It does not automatically happen that a young man and woman
become sexually attracted to each other. Nor does it
automatically happen that they want to deeply love, cherish,
marry and protect one another.
These emotions or desires are not all inherited or innate in the
human constitution.
NOT INBORN
Heterosexuality - sexual desire toward a member of the opposite
sex is not altogether inborn. Nor is homosexuality - sexual
desire toward a member of one's own sex, Nor, for that matter,
are other damaging sexual feelings or fears about sex.
Human beings are not born with an inherited sexual orientation or
sexual instinct that drives them irrevocably in a certain
direction.
There is a reason why many homosexuals assume they were "born
that way"; why, they assume their sexual attractions and
emotions are as natural to them as the color of their eyes.
Genetics and hormones play a part in developing human sexuality,
but not in the way many think. And individual responses to
cultural, parental and personal experiences play a very big part
in moulding human sexual feelings. But, in addition, there is
critical knowledge beyond biology and cultural studies that is
missing in modern education about human sexual and emotional
development.
MISSING KNOWLEDGE
Scientific sex research is late on the scene. It began just after
the middle of the 19th century. Sex researchers have indeed
gained certain knowledge and understanding about genetics,
hormones and environment and their combined effect on shaping
human sexuality.
Yet, "the impetus behind the homosexual urge contained in the
male bond remains unexplained," writes psychologist C.A.Tripp in
summarizing such research in his book, "The Homosexual Matrix,"
page 53. But the missing impetus is explained in the pages of
your Bible!
Humanity through the ages has rejected essential knowledge from
the Creator. Researchers, rejecting revealed knowledge, are
looking for answers to damaging human problems - sexual and
otherwise - only by their own limited physical tools of discovery
and reasoning. They look for answers: in the physical makeup of
the human body or brain when the major problem is a
spiritual matter - a problem in the spiritual attitude,
motivation and desires of individuals.
Researchers have developed theories to explain individual human
sexual feelings; problems and motivations without understanding
the true nature of human nature. We must understand this first.
Then we can rightly use the added demonstrable discoveries of
human sexual research.
Why has humanity been plagued with so many damaging sexual
problems? Why sexual fears and phobias? Why so many unhappy
intimate marital relationships? Why so many damaging, feelings
among human beings and between the sexes?
The Bible reveals the origin of these problems in events before
the first man and woman were created!
FIRST PERVERTED BEING
Scripture reveals the existence of a great spirit being, an
archangel, who rebelled against the laws and government - the way
of his Creator (Isaiah 14:11-15; Ezek. 28:12- 19).
His name, in Latin, is Lucifer and means "light-bringer." He was
created to be the bringer of God's truth to the earth, inhabited
first by angels, later man. Instead, this great archangel swayed
one third of God's angels to follow his self-seeking, self-willed
"get" way (Rev. 12:4). His angels became demons. These spirit
beings rejected God's way of love - the "give" way. The "give" or
love way is the way of diligent respect and concern for the
position and welfare of others, as well as concern for oneself.
God's laws define what love is.
Lucifer's rebellion caused his name to be changed to Satan,
meaning "the adversary." Satan reasoned the "get" way was what he
wanted. It is the attitude of being your own authority of right
and wrong. It is the way of lust, doing whatever seems pleasing
and exciting to you - experimenting with things instead of
wanting to go God's way. Happiness, Satan reasoned, is getting
all you can for yourself. He became a competitor.
Then God planned to create, through free moral agency, God's own
character in human beings and bring them into the God FAMILY. The
account of this marvellous purpose for humans begins in Genesis:
"Let us make man in our image, after our likeness," said the
Creator (Gen.1:26). Think of it! God is - reproducing himself!
Human existence is merely a physical, chemical existence. This
earth is the training and testing ground for the introduction of
godly character.
Satan resented human sexuality and the great purpose God had in
creating it. Satan was sexless (Mark 12:25). He could not repro-
duce, but he could sway human minds with his attitudes and
nature.
SEX GOOD TO SEX EVIL
When God recreated a habitable earth after Satan's rebellion and
put humans on it, we read, "male and female created he them"
(Gen.1:27). The Creator called all of his creation; including sex
in humans, "good" (verse 31).
God didn't leave this first human couple ignorant of their
sexuality or its proper use. Though they were unclothed they were
unashamed (Gen. 2:25).
God became the first great sex educator! He instructed:
"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall
cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh" (Gen.2:24).
Marriage between a property prepared male and female is the
God-ordained sexual orientation and context of sexual relations.
God knows the emotional needs of human beings. He said it was
"not good that the man should be alone" (Gen.2:18). Understand
this point. It is critical! God knew that the human male needs to
give and receive appreciation, affection and love from another
human to be happy and fulfilled, to fill an emptiness in life.
That is why God created woman.
(This is of course general - some make themselves single for the
Kingdom of God's sake, as Jesus said in the NT- Keith Hunt).
But God designed the human female also to need to receive
appreciation and give it, to share in affection and love for
other humans and to be fulfilled. That is why God created the
family - a God-plane relationship. To establish a family
there is the need for sexual attraction. That is why God
created sex, made humanity male and female. God ordained marital
love and sex as the proper use of the sex drive. Sex in the
marriage bond is for more than human reproduction. It is intended
to unite a couple in love and respect in a way shared with no
other, and to build, stable families.
In his first sex instruction, God taught that marriage: is for
persons mature end self-disciplined enough to leave parents and
successfully establish a separate home. Parents are to teach
appreciation of God's ways to their children by their example,
That takes understanding of God's laws and maturity of mind,
Youths need mature parents to teach and guide them in their
highly impressionable young years to understand the way to
true success and happiness. That includes diligently teaching
right sexual identification for males and females and
wholesome sex education based on God's laws revealed in the
Bible.
But in his plan to allow humans the opportunity to build
character by free moral choice, God had to allow Satan to have
contact with the first couple. He had to see which way they would
choose to go.
Very quickly, Satan injected into the first woman's mind the
false idea that God had lied to them. Eve was deceived into
stealing from God, and Adam, dropping his God ordained leadership
role, weakly followed his wife.
The first human couple rebelled against their Maker and took
something that was not theirs. They had decided to experiment
with knowledge, to take upon themselves the prerogative of
determining what is good and what is evil. This was all
symbolized by the "tree of the knew ledge of good and evil."
Suddenly their minds had an added and different attitude. They
were embarrassed to discover they were naked. They hid from God..
When God asked why they hid, Adam replied, "I was afraid, because
I was naked" (Gen.3:10). The word naked used here implies
bareness in a bad or negative way. God answered, "Who told thee
at thou wart naked?" (verse 11). Who? Only Satan had talked to
them. But he had conveyed to them the idea that they ought to be
ashamed about the way God had created them, about their
sexuality.
Satan is the originator of the idea that sex is intrinsically
evil, dirty and shameful. This is how wrong sexual attitudes and
feelings among humans first began!
Ever since, Satan has worked in human cultures to pervert human
attitudes, emotions; and relationships. He implants in human
minds selfish moods and attitudes so that human beings think
these moods, or feelings, are only inborn human feelings. Some
human minds, during early childhood, have allowed accepted wrong
moods or feelings of attraction to the same sex. The process
starts so early in some, that many homosexuals and lesbians think
these are totally inborn human feelings.
DEVIL DECEIVES CULTURES
Adam and Eve were driven from the Garden of Eden and from contact
with God's Spirit, Ever since humanity, as a whole, has been cut
off from God's Spirit, which would have guided them in the right
ways of living and to life itself....
The terrible results are recorded in the Bible, and frequently,
secular history.
Genesis, the introductory book of the Bible, alone records the
experience and tragic consequences of almost every type of wrong
human and sexual act as a warning to humanity in all
generations. But much of humanity has refused to learn. Human
beings today we merely repeating these ugly experiences of
previous generations though - we like to think of many of them as
new.
Through the ages God has called a few people to walk in his
ways. God gave his laws and inspired the Bible (2 Tim.3:16) for
a special nation - the family of Israel - so mankind would not be
totally with out knowledge of the way they should live. So they
could, if they wanted to understand, find the cause of human
problems.
Most humans have rejected such knowledge. They have failed to
heed the instruction of revealed knowledge from their Creator.
Many educated don't believe there we fallen spirit beings
influencing and deceiving all humanity (Rev.12:9); they don't
believe that Satan' is the unseen ruler and god of this world
(2 Cor. 4:4).
But the apostle Paul revealed, contrary to the enlightened
education of this world, how Satan injects his wrong attitudes,
desires and emotions into unwary-minds:
"Wherein in time past ye [now converted Christians] walked
according to the course of this world, according to the prince
of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the
children of disobedience."
(Satan and his host are in a sense flying around everywhere,
deceiving all they can - Keith Hunt).
With what results? " .. [fulfilling] the lusts of our flesh,
fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind" (Eph.
2:2-3). There are no inborn limits of controls to what the
human mind can entertain but that which an individual learns or
chooses to restrain.
Here are the damaging moods, desires, and attitudes, produced by
Satan's "get" way in those who yield to them: "Now the works of
the flesh are manifest ... Adultery, fornication [sexual
immorality], uncleanness [any physical, moral or sexual
uncleanness], lasciviousness, idolatry ... hatred ... strife
... envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such
like..." (Gal.5:19-21).
Satan and his host inspire attitudes of rebellion,
selfishness and lust in human beings. They can insinuate wrong
thoughts and desires in minds that are vulnerable to them, even
those of young children. But not everyone is equally
vulnerable. How any one person responds to various thoughts or
emotions depends upon his culture, upon his upbringing and
experiences, upon his learning and internalized values, upon the
strength of character. In short, the direction of an
individual's sexual feelings and values depends upon what
thoughts and emotions are allowed in his mind
and developed from infancy on.
NOW SEXUAL SINS ENTER
Humans are born with sexual emotional capacity. If wrong and dam-
aging emotional and sexual feelings take root in human minds, it
is because humans allow and do we resist them. Perhaps they don't
realize they should. Perhaps they choose not to resist when
they could. Perhaps certain temperamental or emotional weaknesses
may make some more vulnerable to certain sexual temptations
than others. Some wrong experiences leave deep impressions. Other
misleading emotions, feelings and desires, repeated enough,
become deeply learned and conditioned in the human mind.
"Habits are at first cobwebs, then cables," goes an old
Spanish proverb. Satan well understands this deep conditioning in
human minds and emotions. He works to thwart God's purpose
through them.
Though many deny it, all, humans have been deceived (Rev.
12:9). All become, in one way or another, the slaves of various
deceptive sins, pleasures and feelings (John 8:34; Heb.3:13).
They can't shake or escape them all on their own power.
It takes strong spiritual power from God, as well as high human
motivation and effort, to break the damaging cables of wrong
thinking ,and feeling and then learn the right thinking and
emotions revealed the law of God.
A person's most important sex organ is his or her brain!
If a person is properly guided in youth by proper role models,
example and teaching, he or she will come and desire to adopt the
correct sexual identity. Each will develop respect and love of
the opposite sex and develop a right hetero-sexual desire. Each
will also prepare, serve, and love, in a right way, human beings
of all ages.
But sex education and emotional feelings are not primarily
learned by formal instruction. Sex education and emotional
feelings about sex automatically start from infancy with
the way parents and other influential persons treat others of
their own and the opposite sex, and treat children. Additional
verbal or formal instruction merely reinforces learning.
Wrong sexual feelings develop not only out of wrong culture but
also out of ignorance.
Many parents have failed to teach their children age-appropriate
knowledge about sex.
Hush-hush about sex in homes has reaped a fearsome price. Many
young people are not taught any right and wholesome attitudes
about sex. They are taught no right standards of sexual conduct.
They are not taught that certain sexual feelings are wrong or
damaging and why they are to be avoided. They may have had
improper examples of what it means to be a loving, caring male or
female. All this may distort a young person's view of sex and
right relationships with one's own and the opposite sex.
The seedbeds of unfortunate emotional or sexual feelings may be
laid in the earliest years of life. Many young persons do not
understand their feelings, and emotions because they lack
proper association or communication with understanding or
concerned parents who could help to evaluate their feelings.
Without the proper parental example of love, concern, and
guidance, wrong or misguided affectional feelings toward others
can begin to stir sexual feelings and start a wrong pattern of
association the mind.
Millions of individuals simply follow peer practices or any
exciting erotic emotions or thought that crosses their minds.
They seem "natural." But what they may not realize is that wrong
thoughts and feelings (adulterous, homosexual or otherwise
immoral) can be learned not only from others, but from their own
uncontrolled thoughts, and these thoughts are not always natural,
but can be injected into their minds unknowingly by an evil
spiritual source - by Satan or his demons.
Individuals may have allowed themselves to respond to such
emotions or patterns so early in life' that they become a
"natural" part of the way they have always felt. They look back
on their life and conclude they, must have been "born that way."
MISGUIDED CHOOSING
Humans seek excitement - something to fill the void, emptiness
or loneliness of their lives. What they need is a sense of worth
to themselves and others. Whenever wrong sexual or emotional
seeds are allowed and cultivated in an attempt to fulfil these
needs, they will grow - in youth or even after one is married.
Scripture warns us, "Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for
whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap"'(Gal.6:7).
To some, extramarital involvement or homosexual thoughts or
acts (a person may not even realize what they are) seem a way to
find affection, gain attention, recognition, security, or money.
Maybe they seem a way of proving sexual prowess or masculinity.
Maybe they seem the only option available, given one's lack of
confidence or misled desires, feelings or fears about the
opposite sex.
One wrong thought, uncontrolled or accepted, leads to still
more. Maybe a person doesn't know he should resist temptation.
Maybe he doesn't care. Minds that feed on wrong emotional
or erotic thoughts in various fantasies (....in conjunction with
specific kinds of pornography) will eventually have them
ingrained as desires and emotions.
(This mindset can be weak or strong depending on many factors
that have made-up that persons life, thoughts, teaching,
influences, parental and educational upbringing etc. - Keith
Hunt).
Too many cop out and totally blame others for their problems
and emotions in life. One's society or culture maybe partly to
blame. Parents may or may not have set a right example in their
relationships and teaching.
Satan may have tempted. But individuals also repeatedly allow
themselves to respond to wrong ways of living and thinking.
GODLY SEXUALITY
God is very concerned about the cultural and family
environments of human beings. Family and environment are where
the
foundations of human relationships and sexual feelings, values
and ideas are established.
A variety of forces in the world is trying to change the concept
of family life and the social learning environment so that any
sexual experience becomes acceptable.
God's laws and awesome purpose for human beings still stand. Sin
- the breaking of God's law (I John.3:4) - damages, arrests,
limits full human maturity and development. It restricts the
proper development of values, outlook and goals in life.
Sin, and sexual sin in particular, distorts wholesome feelings to
one's own and the opposite sex.
It subtly, destroys health and minds. It works to destroy
respect, appreciation and ability to successfully experience the
God-ordained family unit. It undermines the proper example and
teaching that adults should be giving to children and future
generations. Wrong sexuality opens the door to rapid degeneration
and physical and spiritual disease of the human body, mind and
spirit. The end results are greater and greater social evils.
Only if humans follow revealed laws about right relationships to
God and between the sexes can true happiness, fulfillment and
social stability be achieved.
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This is the basic bedrock of why our nations are having an
increase in wrong sexual desires, whether it is same sex
relations or opposite sex relations, for sexual gratification.
There maybe many other factors that go towards producing
homosexuals and lesbians, but the bottom line of it all has been
covered I believe in the above article - Keith Hunt.
Entered on this Website December 2003
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